Is your parents’ possessiveness hurting your romantic relationships?

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Are you being defensive in your relationships?Another client, R a 35-year-old HR professional based in Delhi experiences this too. Her father goes to great lengths to dissuade her from considering the men she seems to be interested in. At first, this felt great as her dad was looking out for her, but three years later, she is able to see a pattern.In my opinion, while there is no doubt that the parents want their children to be in a committed relationship, there is also no denying that they rely on the kids as a support system in old age.

They get nervous about the big change of their child moving out to form a family of their own. This is especially true for those who also live with their parents. However, this behavioural pattern can be managed with thoughtfulness and sensitivity.

Instead of accusing the parents, adopt an attitude of empathy—however hard that may seem, it is possible.Both my friend and V stopped sharing information with their parents about where they were going or who they were meeting. As an adult, one can absolutely do that. Now, all they share is the time when they are likely to be back home.

This is in the realm of good manners and maintaining safety parameters. R took a decision to not introduce anyone to her father till she was hundred percent sure of the man she wanted to be with. She has now been happily married for the last two years.

R’s father dotes on her husband.Also read: Mothers should be allowed to show their teethThere is always a middle path that can ensure peace of mind for all concerned. Never doubt the fact that your parents do want you to be happy. If you go with that belief, you will find a way to navigate getting into a relationship and keep them reassured that you will always