Adopt money behaviours that feel good and are good for you

economictimes.indiatimes.com:

money. “Nothing works out for me. Everything is set to fail in my life and this is how it is destined to be,” she complained.

The story was sad and tragic, but there was hope. After losing her husband abruptly in a road accident, she had been left to fend for herself and her two young boys. Life had been good until then, as they were doing very well with the business that her husband was running.

They lived in a luxurious home and spent lavishly. She did not bother to know anything beyond running the house and taking care of children. Five years ago, her world turned topsy-turvy when her husband passed away.
There was money in the bank and in investments, and insurance claims came through.

The business partner bought over her deceased husband’s share for a reasonable price, since she was unable and unwilling to run it. There were no outstanding loans or debt. The husband had left her in a fairly comfortable financial position, and she had both sides of the family stepping in and supporting her.

Then, where was the problem? She had taken to buying stuff indiscriminately, purchasing jewellery, clothes and gadgets almost every week. She refurbished the house and made it a habit to rework and redo something or the other routinely. She changed her cars too frequently.
Everyone around her told her that she was behaving recklessly, but she could not stop.

She argued, cried and quarrelled with her well-wishing family, but continued to spend. The temporary high that she got from spending was her way of dealing with the trauma. She did not admit to it, but those who knew her were certain of it.